Why Do I Feel Guilty All the Time?

Feeling guilty all the time often comes from a nervous system that learned to avoid conflict or disapproval by taking the blame first. Healthy guilt points to a specific action to repair; chronic guilt floods you for things that don’t violate your values. With IFS, EMDR, and somatic therapy, we identify the protectors behind guilt, regulate the body states that keep it activated, and update the old memories that taught you “I’m only safe when I’m sorry.” Over time, guilt becomes quieter and more accurate—no longer a default setting. That shift makes space for boundaries, ease, and genuine connection.