When you can’t relax no matter how much you try, it’s not a personal failure—it’s a sign your nervous system has been carrying too much for too long. Through trauma-informed approaches like EMDR, IFS, and Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, therapy helps your body learn that it no longer needs to stay on guard. You begin to feel the difference between “numb” and “calm,” between “on edge” and “at ease.” Healing starts when your body finally believes it’s safe to rest.

You can be surrounded by friends and still feel lonely. Often, what we crave isn’t more social events, but deeper emotional connection — the kind that feels safe, reciprocal, and nourishing. Old protective patterns, trauma, anxiety, or ADHD can make intimacy feel risky, leaving you stuck in surface-level connection. With approaches like EMDR, IFS, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, and therapy intensives, it’s possible to soften those barriers and experience closeness that feels authentic and sustaining.

If you’ve ever been told you’re “too sensitive,” you know how painful those words can feel. They carry an edge of judgment — as if your emotions are somehow excessive, wrong, or a flaw that needs to be fixed. For many of my clients, especially those navigating ADHD, anxiety, or relational trauma, this label has been following them since childhood.

If you live with ADHD and find yourself constantly anxious, you’re not imagining the connection. The overlap between anxiety and ADHD is more than just common—it’s baked into the way ADHD brains function. And yet, many people are left feeling confused, overwhelmed, or misdiagnosed, wondering: Why can’t I relax, even when nothing is technically wrong? Why does everything feel so urgent all the time?

Let’s explore how ADHD and anxiety interact—and how trauma-informed therapy (including EMDR, IFS, and therapy intensives) can help you find clarity, calm, and lasting relief.

The internet loves a tidy mantra. Enter: Mel Robbins' "Let Them" theory. It's gone viral for a reason. The concept is simple and empowering: if someone wants to leave, disappoint you, or act in a way you can't control? Let them. Release the grip. Stay in your own lane. Focus on your own peace.

Sounds good, right? And for many, it is a powerful mindset shift. But if you live with anxiety—especially the kind rooted in relational wounds or trauma—"letting them" isn't just hard. It can feel downright impossible.

When people think of anxiety, they often think of racing thoughts, excessive worrying, or mental spirals. But for many, anxiety starts in the body: a racing heart, shallow breath, tense muscles, or a gut that just won't settle. And when those sensations show up without a clear trigger, it can feel disorienting—or even shameful.

But here's what you need to know: your nervous system is not always working with the most current information.

If you’re someone who thrives on productivity and ambition, it might feel counterintuitive to question whether those qualities could actually be a form of high-functioning anxiety. After all, you’re managing your responsibilities, achieving goals, and even excelling in some areas. But beneath the surface, does it feel sustainable—or is it starting to take a toll?

As a therapist specializing in trauma recovery, I work with many clients who identify with these patterns, and one thing I admire about them is their innate drive to figure themselves out. There’s often a deep curiosity that draws them into therapy—a desire to make sense of the cycles they’re stuck in and learn how to live in a way that feels more fulfilling. And what I’ve found over time is that when these clients soften and begin to show themselves compassion, incredible growth and healing unfold.